Monday, October 26, 2015

OctPoWriMo 2015: Day 26: Every Bride Should Feel Beautiful

Image by Beverly Tan

Every Bride Should Feel Beautiful

Pretty as a picture
The bride on her wedding day
Picture what was in her mind on this most wonderful
Day of her entire life

Wonderful thoughts--you would think so
Life has not been that kind to every girl
So it started back in childhood, this insecurity
Girl is told time and time again that she doesn't measure up

Insecurity, at first a shadow tiptoeing
Up it rises in the silence of her mind
Tiptoeing round the corners of her soul
Mind needling at her more and more as she grows

Soul spirals in a cycle of doubt and shame
Grows within her soul like a seed
Shame as the world becomes more transparent with its message
Seed planted springs forth with full realization

Message that girls who look like her should feel shame
Realization may be subtle like the smell of petrichor
Shame may burst through her like a lightning strike
Petrichor, and the lingering smell of realization

Strike her down with the understanding
Realization that she is short and plump
Understanding that most people see her as ugly
Plump no longer a sweet, childlike quality

Ugly girls are all too common in this world
Quality girls are such a rarity
World where girls are taught to hate the way they look
Rarity for a girl to be able to be confident on her wedding day

Look at her, mired in self-doubt when she should be smiling
Day so full of promise, heart so full of trepidation
Smiling because she loves him so
Trepidation because she fears the spell will be broken

So why can't we make this a world where no girl feels
Broken and ugly on her wedding day
Feels instead like she deserves the best
Day after day, whether celebration or just a day like any other

~Sadie~

Note:

I was very happy on my wedding day. However, I was not an obvious beauty like the lady in the wonderful picture. I was a short, plump Filipina, and part of me kept expecting my husband-to-be to suddenly come to the realization that he was marrying someone that the majority of the world saw as quite homely.
Fortunately for me, my long, lean wizard has never come to see his princess as a toad. After 35 years together (married for 32 of those) we still love each other very much.

How to Loop 101: 
There are no restrictions on meter or syllables or rhyme schemes (YAY!)
BUT we have a few rules!

Take the last word of a line. Skip a line. Use that word as the first word of that line. 
I know, sounds harder than it is, so basically take the last word of the FIRST line and use it as the first word of the THIRD line. Take the last word of the SECOND line and use it as the first word of the FORTH line. Last word of the THIRD line is the first word of the FIFTH line. And it keeps going on and on like that. 
Some people do it by stanzas. 
There is also a variation where there's no skipping and the last word of the line simply becomes the first word of the next line. Simpler, but personally I think it's a LOT harder. 


10 comments:

  1. You are of course right on the mark with your poem ... and who know why this world works just on appearances ...I enjoyed this moving powerful write ... Bastet

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    1. Thank you. I know the idea of equating beauty with goodness goes back at least to ancient Greece, but in modern times I think we've become even more perfectionistic.

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  2. Our standards of beauty are oppressive to most women and girls. Thank you for writing so eloquently about it!

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    1. I realized as I got older that these standards are even oppressive to the ones who live up to them. Our appearance changes as we get older, and it is a terrible thing to have one's merits judged on their appearance alone.
      Thanks for commenting!

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    1. Thank you. I wasn't sure I could do it, but I managed!

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    1. I think I caught on with the style. I'm sure there are many who could do it better than I can!

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  5. This piece is dead-on. As I raise a daughter, and struggle with my own insecurities, I feel this, deeply. So glad you've found your prince (I've been married to mine for 17 years.) :)

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    1. Seth and I have three daughters. The youngest just started college, the eldest is working on her Master's degree, eventually aiming for a doctorate. I think we did fairly well at teaching them that their worth was not in other people's perceptions, but those damn messages are always out there, even at the check stands with every women's magazine touting how to magically lose weight, and the disgusting tabloids saying awful things about people's bodies, including pregnant women. I'm no fan of Kim Kardashian, but no-one should have to endure the bullying that she does about her body.
      Thanks so much for visiting and commenting. :-)

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