Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

OctPoWriMo 2014: Day 29


Nothing and Nevermore

It was love of a kind
But there was never any consuming bliss
The honeymoon was simply a nice thing to do
At least I didn't walk into it blind

Neither of us felt euphoria
The joy pictured in movies
It was a romance born of logic
We liked the same things

I wasn't bewildered when it ended
He was annoyed
But there was too much grief
All we did any more was fight

So we packed it in
And we packed up
Went to court
Amicably filed for joint custody

And divorce

~Wanda Psycho~


Word Prompts:

Love
Bliss
Consuming
Blind
Honeymoon


Feeling Words:

Euphoria
Joy
Bewildered
Annoyed
Grief

Wanda's Notes:
My poem is a bit of an antithesis to Thalia's beautiful poem about a couple who finally gives in to the love that was there all along. Mine depicts a love that never was there. It's the true story of my own marriage.
Why marry someone you don't feel passion for?
I don't recommend it, but it seemed to be the right thing to do at the time.
My ex husband and I maintain a civil relationship although our children are grown.

Sunday, October 12, 2014

NaPoWriMo 2014: Day 12


Love at Last

The first time I fell
The desire was all-consuming
Lust turned to fascination
Fascination turned to wanting
Wanting turned to love
Love turned to obsession

The spell he wove had me so enraptured
That even when it became obvious that I was just his mainstay
That the love was completely one-sided
I couldn't imagine being without him
So for twenty-one years 
I was a prop in his act
He made me disappear when he wanted a fling
He brought me back with a snap of the fingers when he needed some stability

It wasn't easy when I finally worked up the courage to say no more
When the door shut behind him for the last time
I was left alone with tears that never seemed to stop
"Never again," I resolved
 
Copyright: zossos / 123RF Stock Photo

Five years went by
I went to a Halloween party with my sister and her husband
I had no expectations when she introduced me to a colleague
I tried to ignore the fascination as we got to talking
I found myself wanting to know more about him

I told myself it wasn't desire
I never wanted to take that chance again
I didn't want to admit that I was enraptured
That he could easily possess my heart
My sister swore he was a decent guy
But how could I open myself to the possibility
Of being devastated once again?

I took the chance and asked him if he'd be free the following weekend
His smile both warmed my heart and chilled me to the core
We took things slow, enjoying a meal together Saturday night
A trip to the museum on Sunday
No more than a tenacious kiss until I felt a bit more sure

I could lie and say the love grew slowly
But it was there from the first
I put the lust on hold until I could believe 
This man wouldn't hurt me

We'll be married this Halloween
After six years together
I have only one obsession now
To keep him happy for the rest of our lives

~Adam~

For Dylan, the love of my life

http://www.octpowrimo.com/2014/10/the-art-of-obsessions-octpowrimo-day-12.html


The words:
                              desire
                              lust
                              wanting
                              obsession
                              fascination
                              possess
                              love
                              enraptured

Thursday, October 2, 2014

OctPoWriMo 2014: Day 2


Two

He said "I want to marry you and live as two"
I said I wanted to do that too

Others sneered at what we proposed to do
They said we would never last as two

They said you think it's fun when it's brand new
But love will fade when you become more than two

We were still pretty young when we two became three
We were often too tired, but we were still happy

Four years later, we added one more
Going from a family of two to a family of four

Others said we couldn't last too much longer
To their surprise, our love just got stronger

Three years later, we brought home number five
They said for sure we two would no longer survive

We two have been strong now for thirty-two years
Countering the infinite, bleak predictions of our peers

~Sadie~


Note:
When my husband and I got married, we were pretty well fresh out of high school. He was eighteen, and I had recently turned nineteen. We had a lot of relatives (mostly mine) as well as some so called "friends" saying repeatedly that young romances didn't last. They gave us five years at the most. They made a lot of interesting predictions that he would cheat on me, because, apparently, no young man can go without inserting his manhood into any available orifice.
These predictions became even more prolific when I gave birth to our first daughter at the age of twenty-one. My husband was a very devoted father. He enjoyed spending time with his child. Some of his friends liked to brag about their party exploits to show him what he was missing out on, but he never thought he was missing out on much. My husband is not that much of a drinker. He likes a couple of beers while watching a football game. On a few occasions I've seen him a bit tipsy, but he doesn't like to get full-on, stumbling drunk--never has.
These predictions of doom continued through the births of our second and third daughters. After the birth of our youngest, there were also predictions that my husband might turn into King Henry the Eighth out of disgust that I hadn't managed to produce a male heir. He set straight those who suggested that he was upset with me for having only daughters by educating them on the fact that it was actually his chromosome that determined the sex of our offspring. 
We can't entirely distance ourselves from the negative relatives, but we don't see them that often. We did distance ourselves from the negative friends, who thought we were boring stick-in-the-muds anyway. I'd rather be a stick-in-the-mud than a doomsayer. It's one thing to express concern about a couple getting married at a very young age, it's quite another to continually predict that their romance will end in despair.